Xander fluttered kisses over her face, as gentle with her as he was brutal with the Others she watched him kill.
In his private character Shane O'Neill was a brutal, uneducated savage.
She was expecting some sort of alien monster to inhabit the brutal planet.
Even if Lilith wasn't meant to be his mate, she didn't deserve such a brutal death. She didn't deserve death at all. Instead of mourning a son, Kris could've spent the past few thousand years raising a successor.
But admiration of his talents must not blind us to his moral worthlessness, nor is it right to cast the blame for his excesses on the brutal and vicious society in which he lived.